I need help. I don't know what else to do?

Wow! Surely he knows how you feel, but does he know how you feel about the GED, and the job? Tell him you worry that he won't be able to (help) support the two of you without a job. Tell him that you don't want to be the only one working, because that's really not the way it's supposed to be. Encourage him to get his GED, then a job first. Let him work on himself. You can't be his everything, nor him your everything. Tell him nicely and see if he cares enough about himself and about you to be motivated enough to enroll in a GED class. He has to take some steps at self improvement or he'll only go down, down, down. The way he is now, he'd need to rely on you for support. You love him, but you still deserve a go-getter whose about being a responsible adult. Tell him your concerns and then see what he does. If he enrolls in class AND completes it, then seeks a job--relentlessly seeks a job. If he really cares about you, he'll want to marry you in the right way: where you BOTH can contribute financially to the marriage, etc. As far as your feeling of guilt. Stop beating yourself up. Your co-worker obviously has something that you lack in your boyfriend of four years...probably a JOB, which makes him seem a bit more attractive, and since you spend so much time with him at work. Also, think about the fact that if they guy at work is pressuring you to be with him KNOWING that you have a long-time boyfriend pretty much shows you that he has very high cheater potential..if he doesn't mind trying to "steal you away" from someone else, if that's even the case...if he's been pursuing you. If you've just been attracted to him without him trying to pursue anything, then maybe you should try seeing other people...but then, that would cause more confusion and crush your 4-year guy...But then, it could light a fire under his a$$ and let him see that if he doesn't get his act together, that there are probably many capable and interested guys who would love to step up to the plate. Could go either way. If he's as forgiving as you say, then he'll understand and get his act together...even though he'll be jealous and hurt. Hopefully it wouldn't send him over the edge. Make sure he knows that you love him, but that you just don't think you guys are ready yet for marriage and that your relationship is at a standstill. When you say you want things back the way they used to be, does that mean that he had a job? Getting his GED will make that more possible. You sound pretty confused and broken up about it. It sounds like a really hard thing to be going through, but remember, you have to take care of yourself too. All of this stressing is not good for you. Go out with someone else and see how you feel. Just don't sleep with the person and you shouldn't feel so guilty. However, if you're beating yourself up just for THINKING about being with your co-worker, then maybe that's not such a good idea. Don't bring anymore stress on yourself. It'll only feel worse. Not sure what else to suggest. Hope this helped some. Good luck with this. Try praying for guidance. Chin up! Try to be happy.